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Personal Self-Worth [Jan. 10th, 2006|04:09 pm]
Marrying Ourselves

gregoryblack
[Current Mood |pleasedpleased]

Something else to get feedback on.  A topic that is very relevant to me specifically.  Basically the struggle to really feel good about yourself if you happen to physically be a 30something year old male who has never been married in any traditional sense and not because of a complete lack of effort on my part.  Quite easy to start thinking such things as am I worthless or is there something wrong with me if you often hear on the radio commercials for online dating or mentioning by various people on the radio about their own spouse.  I think the mainstream tends to be biased at least subtly if you are not actively dating and/or married in the traditional sense.  In regards to myself, I realize that I truly love myself first and foremost by making sure that now that I am shortly going to turn 35 next month, I am in great physical shape, more or less adhere to a vegetarian lifestyle (love the seafood!), and base my relationships with female friends on other than the fact that they are more aesthetically desirable than men in appearance.  In a society like this, it is a challenge to not regard even unconsciously women as just a sexual commodity and base their worth in this way.  Anyways, I have since learned that casual sex has too many negative consequences.  Particularly like that now in my life, I am still able to go out dancing, have a great time without always drinking or trying anymore to become intimately involved with any other woman as more than a friend.  It is simply intoxicating to realize that I am over thirty years old and I am able to spend hours on the dancefloor without having to be rushed to the hospital.  I can look at myself in the mirror and think I really look great for my age.  My self-worth as a person is now based in myself rather than in the fact that I am involved with a woman or by the number of times I have had sex.
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More About This Path [Jan. 10th, 2006|01:11 pm]
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gregoryblack
[Current Mood |contemplativecontemplative]

Thought that I would share this part of my recent past here.  Sometime ago, I happened to place a profile on the Disinformation website since basically I thought I would finally meet an ideal partner based on my personal preferences.  A few good choices here in the city where I live, but unfortunately I received no replies back.  Anyways, later out of the blue, I finally receive my first reply.  I believe that she lived all the way in Russia, but since I am an idealist, I was willing to do what was necessary to introduce her personally into my life.  She wanted someone who would be honest and not drink heavily and be true to her.  The man of her dreams, if you will.  I think that she did a disappearing act on me because I clearly said that I would be true to her alone even before we met in person.  Poof!  No more betrothed.  I suppose traditional relationships work best if you treat them frivolously and/or for granted as is often the case with the mainstream.  Obviously, I was a bit angry and even though I did not use profanity to actually insult her when writing in my journal back then, I was not exactly elated that someone who entered my life unexpectedly disappears without a third email reply.  After yet more soul searching, I happened to come across this online community after I had been wearing my special ring for quite sometime.  As a Pagan, naturally I want a sacred relationship and what is wonderful about the notion of self-marriage, I will never end up having an ordinary relationship with myself.  You know, where the person you marry becomes little more than just a roommate and the magic and passion has long since departed.  So do not want that sort of marriage.
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My Special Ring [Jan. 9th, 2006|01:37 pm]
Marrying Ourselves

gregoryblack
[Current Mood |pleasedpleased]

Because I simply adore the way it looks and feels on my left hand.  Bought it from this one website.  Basically a more romantic variant in Elvish of The One Ring.

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I thought this community would be more alive but I'm just gonna ask you all a question or two. [Nov. 5th, 2005|07:37 pm]
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ready2b
Why did you decide on sameknotting? or what interests you about it?

and how do you maintain a good relaitonship with yourself?
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hey I'm sort of new. . . [Oct. 14th, 2005|07:39 pm]
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ready2b
I completely agree with self marraige - I've been married for 2 years now (august 28th) - and I wear a white gold ring with the inscripiton "goddess" on my wedding finger (most people either don't get it or think it's pretty stupid being 18 and all) but it just reminds me when I'm "alone" I'm really not and no one will ever love me better than myself because I want be my best friend, to enjoy my own company, to wake up and be happy that I'm me and I never want to forget any of it. For the ceremony I had woke up early, dressed in white and in front of a lake by my house I recited some vows which I hope to keep myself pure and reliant on the divine force primarially before anything else. I did a silent meditation home and since then I've been wearing my ring. I guess that's it.

I just would like to have a dialouge with this community because it's hard for me to ALWAYS remember that my completion is found internally - and sometimes I find myself chasing after people or "relationships" that cause me to start relying externally - that has gotten pretty old and tiering to me now and I would just like some suport and a reminder about loving oneself first.

thanks for your time - namaste
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disgustingly interesting. [Oct. 16th, 2004|07:46 pm]
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the_mad_poet
http://www.newscientist.com/news/news.jsp?id=ns99996533

I thought this might interest the community. I will post it in similar communities. Also check out AVEN, which is mentioned in the article.

Totally worth reading if you ask me. Maybe that's because this is a topic I think of routinely in my days, and I had no idea it was currently being researched and given names, although I've said 'asexual' since no other term seems to fit. =D
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hey folks [Oct. 9th, 2004|12:29 am]
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systris
[Current Mood |creative]

welcome to the community....so i guess i can start with myself...i am going to marry myself as part of my 30th birthday celebration in a couple years. i've gone through some changes in my life and since i was going to plan a wedding with my ex-fiance...might as well go through with it anyways by myself. more cake for me!

and now for the fun part...Collapse )
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